5 Nov 2025
Meet Troy and Bobby Looms
Troy and Bobby Looms joined Churchie Boarding earlier in the year as Resident Master and Houseparent. Here, they share their journey and what they value most about being part of the boarding community.
Background and path to Churchie
Troy: My boarding journey began when I accepted a rugby contract in England in 2003, and worked as a houseparent at Lucton School, a traditional coeducational Independent School in the Herefordshire countryside. Since then, I have held Housemaster, Head of Sports and Director of Boarding roles at co-educational, boys’ only and international schools at Shropshire in England, Oamaru in New Zealand, Malaysia and Portugal, which have all been enjoyable and exceptional learning experiences.
Bobby: I accompanied Troy when he accepted his rugby contract in England, and with our young family, we embarked on a new journey. Since then, my career in boarding schools has taken me across the globe, with each country and school offering unique experiences. After more than two decades abroad, we felt the pull to move closer to our family, which ultimately led us here to Churchie.
How they support Year 7 boarders
Troy: It’s about allowing boys to be boys while they learn life lessons throughout their one-year journey with us. We create an environment where boys feel not just physically comfortable, but also emotionally supported and genuinely at home in their new boarding life.
Specific activities have been designed to encourage connection and self-expression among the boys, such as sessions where they can share their goals, likes, dislikes and people who inspire them. These activities are powerful because they allow the boys to learn about each other on a deeper level, fostering empathy and a sense of shared experience. This helps them realise they’re not alone in their transition and that they have a support system among their peers.
Bobby: My approach focuses on active presence and genuine connection, which are essential for helping the boys feel secure and open to sharing. A key strategy is to dedicate time to one-on-one conversations and to chat with each boy about their interests, family, hobbies and sports. It’s about showing them that we care about who they are beyond just being a boarder.
Spending time with the boys during weekend activities is another vital component. Whether it’s an organised outing or just casual downtime, these shared experiences create a relaxed environment where boys can build friendships and feel more at ease. This helps to normalise the boarding experience and makes it feel less like a school and more like a home.
It’s often the little, consistent actions that make the biggest impact in helping the boys feel cared for and supported each day. Noticing the small details is so important. I try to observe subtle cues. If a boy seems a bit quieter than usual, or if there’s a change in their routine, I’ll subtly check in. I also offer genuine praise and encouragement. When I see boys putting in effort, trying something new or showing kindness to others, I make sure to acknowledge it.
Being present and approachable is key. For me, being visible in the common areas, joining in on a quick game of cards or just being available for a chat if they need it, is important. When they see you as approachable and willing to engage in their world, they’re more likely to feel comfortable coming to you with concerns or to share a laugh.
We create an environment where boys feel not just physically comfortable, but also emotionally supported and genuinely at home in their new boarding life.
Troy Looms
What they enjoy most
Troy: I enjoy regularly interacting and demonstrating positivity and encouragement to each boy. Watching them flourish in our small boarding community, whether that is something from their busy school day, in their cocurricular activities or after they have returned to boarding from weekend leave, is very rewarding.
Bobby: The most rewarding part of being a housemother in a boarding community is witnessing the growth and transformation of the boys over their time here. It’s incredibly fulfilling to see them arrive as somewhat shy or uncertain Year 7s and then watch them blossom into confident, well-rounded young men by the time they leave.
It’s not just about academic or sporting achievements, though those are certainly gratifying to see. For me, the true reward comes from observing their personal development. This includes seeing them build strong friendships, develop resilience in the face of challenges, learn to live independently and discover who they are as individuals. Knowing you’ve played a part in shaping their character and preparing them for the next stage of their lives brings me so much joy. And, ultimately, it’s about being a part of their journey and knowing you’ve provided a safe, nurturing environment where they can thrive.
The most rewarding part of being a housemother in a boarding community is witnessing the growth and transformation of the boys over their time here.
Bobby Looms
A proud moment
Troy: Accompanying the boys at the Headmaster’s Afternoon Tea and Housemother’s Breakfast offered a glimpse into the exemplary young men they are becoming. They presented themselves with superb manners and engaged in polite and thoughtful conversation with the staff, proving that their boisterous energy can be channelled into moments of genuine grace.
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